
All relationships need attention - and this includes the family as a whole.įamily rituals can offer a set time for families to get together and give each other the attention needed. In today’s busy world it can be difficult for families to find time to be together. When people feel heard and respected, they feel better about themselves, are more open to solving problems, and are more likely to allow others to express themselves. This does not mean that members are not respectful of one another, but rather that feelings and ideas are respected.Įveryone should be expected to express themselves in appropriate ways - such as with ― "I" messages. Strong families allow all family members - no matter how young or small - to talk about their thoughts and feelings. ― "You" messages seldom resolve the problem.Įncourage all family members to share their thoughts and feelings. "You" messages should be discouraged because they often lead to bad feelings and increased fighting.(upset) when I see you (playing video games before you finish your homework). Teach everyone in your family to talk with "I" ― messages as much a possible.It upsets me to see the two of you not getting along." Rather than ― "What’s wrong with the two of you? You’ are making me crazy! Can’t you ever get along?" They, however, increase the chances that our message will be heard and decrease the chances that a fight will begin. I messages are more difficult because they require us to be clear about our own thoughts and feelings.Use “I” messages rather than “You” messages when talking. Resist giving advice or your reaction until you are certain you have fully understood what the person was saying to you.―I hear you saying that you don’t like your sister. Listen for how the other person is feeling and relay back what you think they were saying and how they are feeling.Focus on what the person is telling you - rather than thinking about your reaction or response to what is being said.



WELL BE STRONG TOGETHER FULL
Give the person your full attention, turn off the TV or put down what you are doing.To build strong family relationships, listen actively to each other. Until we can hear each other, we cannot build strong relationships. One of the best ways to strengthen your family is to increase your listening skills and those of other family members. Strong families have open lines of communication - where all family members feel heard and respected. A strong family gives its members the support they need to make it through life’s toughest spots. It should provide love and warmth to all of its members.
WELL BE STRONG TOGETHER HOW TO
Our family teaches us how to function in the world.
